The Counselling Process
After you contact me, we’ll talk by phone for about 15 minutes (at no charge to you) so that I can find out more about your situation and what you’d like help with. This call is also an important step in figuring out if I’m the right counsellor for you. By the end of the call, if you decide you’d like to set up an appointment, we’ll schedule that. If you or I feel that I am not the best person to help you, I’ll give you some names of other counsellors who might be a better fit.
The initial session is for exploring the specifics of your situation in more detail, and for us to get a growing sense of whether I’m a good fit for you. By the end of this session, you should feel that I “get” what you’re going through. We’ll have a good handle on what you want, and I’ll make suggestions about how I think we can get there. We’ll have a plan for going forward.
We’ll be working towards your goals together. If it’s your first time in counselling, you might wonder why I don’t simply tell you what to do – after all, we go to other healthcare professionals who give us frank advice and recommendations. Counselling is a little different. It’s a collaborative project between you and me that helps you identify what matters most to you, and that provides a relationship in which you feel more confident and strengthened to make the changes you want. Of course, I’ll offer specific strategies to help you do that, while providing a safe and understanding environment for you to be completely yourself.
How will you know when you’re done?
You will just know! Feeling stronger, more capable, hopeful, and in touch with your true self, you will have much more self-awareness and a sense that you have completed a piece of work. And you will be doing things differently, making behavioural changes. Some issues might feel completed within 6-8 sessions, others (perhaps more longstanding or deep-seated, particularly in the case of trauma) may take 20 sessions or more. We’ll check-in frequently regarding the progress you’re making, and how you’re feeling about counselling.